For as long as there has been women on earth, we’ve always tried to find way to make ourselves more beautiful. Whether it was crushing roses to make blush or fashioning corsets from animal bone for a slimmer waist, women have no limit for achieving beauty. However, not all things are for all people. Lace Front Wigs are one of those things, and they are everywhere now. There is always some new beauty trick that promises to fix everything.

I can’t walk past one beauty parlour in the hood without seeing some stenciled sign that reads, “WE DO LACEFRONTS.” It’s funny how a year ago the gossip blogs had us gagging over Beyoncé and Lady Baby Hair’s lacefronts. We’d say, “Girl, with all that money they got, you mean to tell me they can’t get a better wig?” Well now the shoe is on the other foot. What used to look ridiculous from a distance is now right in the neighborhood. And suddenly everybody acts like it is the hottest thing going.

The common woman is getting a wig full of hair glued to her scalp, and most of them look plain crazy. I’m also hearing that in order to achieve this look some women are shaving their own natural hairlines in order to apply the lacefront smoothly. Is it that serious? I say all this to say that I like a man to run his finger through my hair and touch scalp without me pulling away. Real hair is supposed to feel like real hair, and that is part of the appeal.

It’s about to be summer time and who wants a half pound of European straight sitting on their head like a hat? This isn’t just about fake hair. It’s about our insecurities and the way in which we show them. Not all women who wear fake hair are insecure, but a lot of you are. Women, love and accept who you are because that is the only way you will find someone who will do the same. If you cannot stand your own look, you will keep reaching for something else.